Is it sex a dilema
... One can have all the sex toys in the world, all the lotions, and all the sex manuals to expand their sexual activities, but if you cannot talk about them with your partner, what good are they? ... Did we grow up in a house where sex was considered dirty and the last thing we had better be caught talking about? ... Another factor is our own knowledge of sex. ... What do we think is morally right regarding sex? ... Little by little bring the sex talk into the bedroom, and then expand new horizons! ... " Instead of saying something like, "Oral sex is so gross," try "Im afraid to try oral sex because you might think I dont taste good." It is also important that YOU recognize why you find oral sex so "gross. ... Talking about sex enables us to break old patterns, eliminate archaic attitudes, and explore the many sides to our sexual selves. Talking about sex should occur before, during and after sexual intimacy.